古代两位禅师寒山和拾得有这样一段对话。

寒山对拾得曰：‘世间人秽我、欺我、辱我、笑我、轻我、贱我、恶我、骗我、我该如何对他？’
拾得答曰：‘那只有忍他、由他、避他、耐他、敬他、不要理他，再过几年，你且看他。’

(无嗔即是戒，心净即出家)

When somebody insults you, you have to become a receiver, you have to accept what he says, only then can you react.

But if you don't accept, if you simply remain detached, if you keep the distance, if you remain cool, what can he do ?