问: 如何帮助人?

答: 一个人要自己从黑暗的洞里走出来,才能感受阳光的照耀和温暖.
太阳是不会跑进洞里找你的.

(06/11/2009)

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio:

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:"

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks
16.Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20.When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ''In five years, will this matter?
27. Always choose life
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'll grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
46. Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forward



作者： Regina Brett，90歲，來自俄亥俄州，克里夫蘭，Plain Dealer城

他說：為了慶祝變得更老了，我曾經寫下人生教我的45個功課。這是我寫過最叫座的專欄。
我這把老骨頭8月就要90歲了，所以，再一次，在這裡呈現這一個專欄。

1。 人生是不公平，但還是好得很。

2。 懷疑的時候，為未來踏出一小步。

3。 人生太短，短到來不及浪費時間去恨任何一個人。

4。 生病的時候，你的工作不會照顧妳。你的朋友和父母會。保持聯絡。

5。 每一個月付清你的信用卡。

6。 你不需要每一次都吵贏。同意你不同意的。

7。 找人一起哭。它比獨自啜泣更加療愈。

8。 對上帝生氣沒有關係。祂受得了。

9。 退休存款從你的第一張薪水條開始。

10。講到巧克力，抗拒只是徒勞無功。

11。和你的過去和解，所以它不會搞砸你的當下。

12。讓你的孩子看到你哭沒有關係。

13。別拿自己的人生和他人做比較。你根本不清楚他們的人生是怎麼一回事。

14。如果一段親密關係要偷偷摸摸，你根本不應該涉入。

15。一眨眼的功夫什麼都會變。但是別擔心： 上帝從來不眨眼。

16。深吸一口氣。它會安定你的腦。

17。沒用，不美，或不喜悅的東西都丟掉。

18。沒讓你死的真的會讓你更堅強。

19。重拾快樂童年永不嫌晚。但這第二次只能靠你不靠人。

20。當關乎追求你生命的所愛，不要把不要當答案。

21。點蠟燭，用好的床單，穿上炫麗的內衣。不要特殊場合才用。今天就是特別的一天。

22。準備要過於周全，然後隨遇而安。

23。現在就離經叛道。不要一把年紀了才開始穿上紫色。

24。最重要的性器官是腦袋。

25。除了你，沒有人在主宰你的快樂。

26。把所謂的不幸用這一句話把它表框起來 "五年後，這還重要嗎?"

27。永遠選擇生活。

28。原諒每一個人每一件事。

29。別人怎麼看你不干你的事。

30。時間會痊癒幾乎每一件事。要給時間，時間。

31。無論情況多好或多壞，它都會變的。

32。不要那麼認真的看待自己。沒有人會這樣看待你的。

33。相信奇蹟。

34。上帝愛你是因為祂就是這樣，不是因為你做了什麼或是沒做什麼。

35。不要稽查人生。現在就呈現和做最大的發揮。

36。變老了打敗另一種選項 - 死得早。

37。你的孩子只有一個童年。

38。最後真正最重要的是你愛過。

39。每一天都出門。奇蹟在四處等著。

40。如果我們都把我們的問題都丟成一堆，然後看看其他人的，我們會把我們的撿回來。

41。忌妒浪費時間。你已經擁有你所需要的了。

42。最好的都還沒來。

43。不管你感覺如何，起來，穿好和呈現。

44。讓自己每天快樂。

45。人生不會打上蝴蝶結，但它仍然是一份禮物。

老师问: 藏在实在的空无能让你联想到什么?
我觉得是装在气球里的空气.

一粒气球要是没有了空气装在里边,也就是没有气的气球;
那么气球的定义就不存在了, 存在的也只是一片橡皮袋吧了.

无论多美的气球,多大的气球,也会损坏,爆裂的一天.
那一天,也是里边的空气回到大自然的时候.

也联想到了...人体和空气.
人需要空气才能活.
每呼出一口气,就得吸进另一口气来替换.
一个没有了呼吸的人,在医学上可称为死人.

如果说,呼出气时是死亡,那么在每吸进一口气就是重生了.

呼气,过去旧的我们也跟著死去了.
吸气,现在新的我们也就再次重生.

每一次的呼吸,也是我们 '死去' '活来'的交替着.

细心观察自己的呼吸,好好珍惜当下,珍惜生命.
直到有一天我们把最后一口气呼出去时,
也就是我们回去了我们原来的地方了.

(07/05/2009)

Do not make promise when you are in joy.
Do not reply when you are sad.
Do not take decision when you are angry.

Think twice, act wise.

" That which is beautiful is not always good;
but that which is good is always beautiful. "

' Commit as many mistakes as possible,
remembering only one thing: Don't commit the same mistake again.
And you will be growing. '

"Return To Innocence"

That's not the beginning of the end
That's the return to yourself
The return to innocence
Love - Devotion
Feeling - Emotion
Love - Devotion
Feeling - Emotion
Don't be afraid to be weak
Don't be too proud to be strong
Just look into your heart my friend
That will be the return to yourself
The return to innocence
If you want, then start to laugh
If you must, then start to cry
Be yourself don't hide
Just believe in destiny
Don't care what people say
Just follow your own way
Don't give up and use the chance
To return to innocence
That's not the beginning of the end
That's the return to yourself
The return to innocence
Don't care what people say
Follow just your own way Follow just your own way
Don't give up, don't give up
To return, to return to innocence.
If you want then laugh
If you must then cry
Be yourself don't hide
Just believe in destiny.

曾经了解到了因无明而来到这世界.
也知道了在还未来到这裟婆世界前,自己看到了无数的过去式,未来式和现在式一生不断的轮回片段. 只因时空不同,看时是眨眼刹那的时间,来到了裟婆界则是要花上千万年来经历每个片段.
因无明而欲知片段里'色声香味触法受想行识'的种种感觉.

我还无法解释为何要来到裟婆界感受'色声香味触法受想行识',这不是在轮回片段里看过了吗?

谢谢您, 吴九箴师兄, 你给我的答案就是'身体是个介面'.
没有身体这个介面, 灵魂是感受不到,体验不到,不能进而学习而悟到什么的.
因为这些感受和体悟, 是灵魂以其原来的粒子振盪模式下,也就是没有肉身当介面时,所无法拥有的.
这是我们这些灵魂,来这幻像世界的最大目的.

明白了. =)

过几年且看他

古代两位禅师寒山和拾得有这样一段对话。

寒山对拾得曰：‘世间人秽我、欺我、辱我、笑我、轻我、贱我、恶我、骗我、我该如何对他？’
拾得答曰：‘那只有忍他、由他、避他、耐他、敬他、不要理他，再过几年，你且看他。’

(无嗔即是戒，心净即出家)

When somebody insults you, you have to become a receiver, you have to accept what he says, only then can you react.

But if you don't accept, if you simply remain detached, if you keep the distance, if you remain cool, what can he do ?